THIS is the downfall of relationships

Over the years, I have come to realize THIS is the downfall of relationships - ALL relationships:

EXPECTATIONS

Why? A lot of times I think we simply expect way too much from another person. Sometimes we expect them to know what we want, to know what we’re thinking, to know how we feel. And, that wishful thinking is a recipe for failure. After all, how can we possibly expect them to know all that when WE don’t even know how we feel half the time?

(#not a mind reader) image courtesy of Google

So, rather than expecting someone to rescue us or validate us or fulfill us, how about we get to the task of doing that for ourselves? Let’s be proactive in our pursuit of happiness and contentment and self-love. Let’s promise to take care of ourselves, to do the things we love to do and to prioritize our own needs without guilt or explanation.

Because, quite honestly, that’s what we’re supposed to be doing on a daily basis anyway. So, let’s radiate some gratitude for these persistent folks who remind us to be more aware of how we treat ourselves by reflecting back to us with their pesky little behaviors. Remember, what do I always say in Qigong every week?

“Be grateful for the people who challenge you the most because they are your greatest teachers. They are here to point out the changes you need to make so you can step into the life of your dreams.”

Moving forward, rather than set ourselves up for endless disappointments, let’s start practicing this Baby Step right now…

(#take this tip) image courtesy of Google

BABY STEP

Remind yourself of this before the day begins to practice making all your relationships the best they can be:

Don’t expect anything from anyone or from any situation. Instead, anticipate that all will be well.

Because, just like a tip at a restaurant, love and respect should not be expected but it’s much appreciated. And, the odds of receiving those things become much greater the more we feel that way about ourselves.