How to handle hard FEELINGS

Want to learn how to handle hard FEELINGS? Then learn how to spell.

Seeing things in a different light can create a different outcome.

Let’s work on that together in today’s Baby Step. But, first, a word from the HEART…

(#what to do) Image created by Deb Plotkin

THE CHAKRA

The beauty of the HEART Chakra lies in its unique job. This Chakra is there to remind us that behind every intense emotion is a softer, gentler one waiting to step in and soothe us.

Isn’t that great news? We never again have to feel stuck in our feelings. We can turn to the HEART for help.

We can choose these reactions to a heated situation instead:

• Understanding

• Acceptance

• Tolerance

• Empathy

• Patience

• Comfort

And, today’s Baby Step is a great way to practice all of the above.

BABY STEP

When we’re talking about hard feelings, we have to touch upon a subject equally as touchy. Now, I’m going out on a limb here, but I’ll bet at one time or another you’ve done this, too…

We have all made mistakes.

Especially in situations involving the peeps we love most, mistakes tend to attract hard feelings. The two seem to go hand in hand.

And I know there are those who preach that there are no “mistakes,” especially those who don’t want to admit to having made one! But I believe it’s perfectly acceptable to say, “I made a mistake.” I like that. It’s honest.

It’s owning up to something you did that you wish you hadn’t. It’s taking responsibility for the consequences that ensued. It’s holding yourself accountable for hurting someone else. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Admitting to a mistake is akin to softening those hard feelings that could potentially haunt us for the rest of our lives, like Marley’s ghost (the Dickens’ character, not the Reggae legend).

Coming forth about a mistake is actively taking the “Ugh!” out of the situation. We’re still learning the lesson, but now we’re saying, “Hell, NO!” the next time that situation pops up. And, to prevent overreactions to those pop-ups again and again and again, let’s Baby Step our way to a different thought process. And it all begins with learning how to spell…

So, the next time you mess up in a relationship, repeat after me:

I made a mistake. I was mis-taken. I was temporarily taken over by hard feelings and intense emotions in that moment. I’m sorry. I promise to do better moving forward.

Then take a deep breath and exhale all that pent-up energy. Because holding onto it serves absolutely no purpose…not for them and certainly not for you.

And, most importantly, forgive your emotional, flawed human self.

With a little spelling magic once again, we can see that forgiveness is for-giving yourself a chance to do better.

So, lighten up a little and give your heart a break.

CHAKRA CLEARING

I CLEAR MY HEART CHAKRA – at the level of my HEART – so I can forgive my mis-taken intentions and release my emotions in a healthy, beneficial, safe and loving way. I appreciate the peace that comes with genuine self-forgiveness and self-love. And so it is :)