Harnessing Mercury Retrograde: How to Strengthen Relationships & Deepen Connections

From Chaos to Connection

MERCURY RETROGRADE

Debra Plotkin

11/5/20262 min read

Harnessing Mercury Retrograde may seem an unlikely way to strengthen relationships and deepen connections, but I know that with a new and improved mindset it can work for you instead of against you.

In fact, this wild energy has the potential to bring us from chaos to connection.

(#wild ride) Image by Deb Plotkin

According to mythology, Mercury governs communication, logic and the nervous system.

That combo is like fuel to start a fire in any relationship.

Luckily, here’s how you can extinguish the flame rather than fan it. What I have found to be true is this…

If the same old problems keep popping up (especially during MR season), then remember that these miscommunications are not meant to be a punishment. Instead, realize these “difficulties” are simply an opportunity to finally face them in the most loving and compassionate way.

And how do you do that?

The short answer is ACCEPTANCE.

The slightly longer answer is the Baby Step tip I’ve been sharing since the dawn of time that has helped me and countless others. Maybe it can help you, too.

BABY STEP

During a decade of Qigong classes I’ve taught and workshops I’ve presented, this remains my number one tool for easing the strain of challenging relationships:

SEND LOVE AND LIGHT.

That’s it. Simple yet effective.

Don’t seek to repair anything because nothing’s broken. Simply tap into ease because it will help you see the situation in a softer light.

Radiating genuine, heartfelt emotion is a potent act of lovingkindness that will transform how you feel about every relationship you have – whether that’s with people, money, the past or your current situation. It’s a silent, private, intimate way of focusing on gratitude rather than griping.

All you need do is this:

  • Place your hands on your heart.

  • Take 3 deep breaths

  • Drop your shoulders down on the third breath

  • Close your eyes (if possible)

  • In your mind’s eye, focus on the person/situation at hand

  • Imagine a soft, gentle stream of light radiating from your heart to theirs

  • Notice the smile on your face as you feel yourself relax

  • Open your eyes and go about your day (until the next challenging situation pops up!)

Remember, this is not about them reciprocating. It’s all ABOUT YOU giving love unconditionally. And, you’re doing it FOR YOU because doing so makes you feel so damn good. Who doesn’t want a warm fuzzy feeling more often?

You see, by pausing for a moment when someone (or something) crosses your mind, you are bringing yourself back to the present. Because I guarantee you that the issue at hand is either focused on something that already happened (aka the past) or something that has not/may not happen yet (aka the future).

By remaining present, you regain the power of the moment. You can then radiate lovingkindness as the peaceful, joyful, love-filled beings you are meant to be. And Mercury Retrograde is here as a reminder to send as much good juju out into the world as possible.

So, thanks, Mercury! And, as another famous Mercury (#Freddie) once sang:

Can't we give ourselves one more chance?

Why can't we give love that one more chance?

Why can't we give love, give love, give love, give love

Give love, give love, give love, give love?

-Under Pressure

AFFIRMATION

I am thriving through this transformation.